Inter-personal Communication Theories
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This is a summary of the information in
Littlejohn, Stephen. (1992).
Theories of Human Communication (5th Ed.). California:
Wadsworth Publishing.
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RELATIONAL
PERCEPTION
R. C. Laing (pg. 254)
- How you communicate with another is determined by your perception of the
relationship you have with them
- Behaviour - involving the observable actions of
another is public
- Experience - internal perception and feeling is
private
- You infer anothers experience, you cannot
observe it (because it is private, internal within them)
- Direct Perspective - when you observe and
interpret anothers behaviour
- Meta Perspective - when you assign meaning to
what you imagine the other person is thinking and feeling
- Any relationship is defined by the direct perspectives and
metaperspectives
- Understanding - the agreement between ones metaperspective and the others
direct perspective (jack correctly infers that jill loves him, he understands
her)
- Being Understood - the agreement between ones metaperspective and the
others metaperspective (jack correctly infers that jill believes he loves her,
he is understood)
- Feeling Understood - the agreement between ones direct perspective and
ones metaperspective (jack infers that jill believes he loves her, which he
does, he feels understood)
- Spirals - particular metaperspectives such as mistrust become accentuated
- Unilateral Spiral - one party moves toward extreme metaperceptions
- Bilateral Spiral - both parties move towards extreme metaperceptions
FUNDAMENTAL TOPOI OF RELATIONAL COMMUNICATIONS (Nonverbal
Expectancy-Violation Theory)
Judee Burgoon (pg. 148)
- Our expectations of others is based on social
norms as well as past experiences with
those people and the situation in which the behavior
occurs
- The expectations include non-verbal behavior (eye contact, distance, body
angle)
- When our expectations are met, other persons behavior is judged as
positive, when expectations are not met, behaviors are judged as negative
- Violations of expectations cause the perceiver to be aroused (standing too
close or too far away, abnormal eye contact, staring)
- Arousal can be positive or negative (which makes you feel uncomfortable)
- In violations, attention is drawn to behavior that would normally pass
unnoticed
- Reward valence is the degree to which you find
the interactions rewarding
- Personal space (its size and shape) depends upon
our cultural norms and individual preferences
Violating another persons proxemic expectations can be a superior
strategy to conformity. Because distance violations are highly ambiguous,
rewarding communicators can enhance their attractiveness, credibility, and
persuasiveness by coming too close or staying too far away. Negatively valenced
communicators should maintain a distance that others consider appropriate.
Griffin. pg. 476
UNCERTAINTY REDUCTION THEORY
Charles Berger (pg.
257)
- Deals with the way we gather information about other people
- Two major concerns, self-awareness (varies from person to person and from
situation to situation) and knowledge of others
- Objective self-awareness - focus is on self
rather than other objects in the environment (such as giving a speech you are
aware of yourself as an object)
- common
- leads to uncomfortable state
- Subjective self-awareness - focus is the
environment, self is blended into the momentary stream of experience
- enduring trait is self-consciousness, dominated by a tendency to
self-monitor (watch yourself)
- high self monitors guard what they say and are sensitive to feedback,
they adjust what they say to others
- low self monitors are less sensitive and less concerned with making
impressions
- In order to predict behaviour, we are motivated to seek further
information. We do this in a variety of ways
- Passive strategies - we observe
- reactivity search - observing the person actually doing something
- disinhibition search - observing a person in informal situations where
they are less likely to self-monitor and behave naturally
- Active strategies - asking or manipulating the
environment
- Interactive strategies - interrogation and
self-disclosure (which creates a desire on the part of the other to
self-disclose)
- Uncertainty reduction is culturally dependent
- High-context cultures rely heavily on the overall situation (such as
Japanese)
- Low-context cultures rely more on explicit verbal content of messages
(such as British)
When strangers meet, their primary concern is to
reduce uncertainty about the other
person and their relationship. As verbal output, nonverbal warmth,
self-disclosure, similarity, and shared communication networks increase,
uncertainty goes down, and vice versa. Information seeking and reciprocity are
positively correlated with uncertainty. Griffin, pg. 477
SELF DISCLOSURE
Sidney Jourard (pg. 260)
- Honest communication relies upon openess or transparency
- Transparency - allowing the world to disclose
itself freely, and disclosing oneself to others
- Personal growth (change) is a direct result of openess
- Self-disclosure increases
- with intimacy
- when rewarded
- with the need to reduce uncertainty
- when reciprocated
- with woman more than men (this might be cultural)
- Satisfaction in a relationship is highest when the level of
self-disclosure is moderate
- Women self-disclose more with people they like, men with people they trust
- Wide differences in levels of self-disclosure between cultures
SOCIAL
PENETRATION THEORY
Gerald Miller (pg. 264)
- Relationships become more intimate over time when disclosure takes place
- Tries to forecast the future of a relationship (is it worthwhile) on the
basis of projected rewards and costs
- Self-disclosure occurs in stages, like peeling an onion
- Five stages of disclosure (Altman and Taylor)
- superficial, what kind of music you like
- political
- religious beliefs and attitudes
- deeply held fears and fantasies
- concept of self
- Outer stages occur more rapidly than inner stages, self-disclosure is
reciprocal
- Social Penetration Theory. [Online]. Available http://chadwick.jlmc.iastate.edu/theory/spt.html
Interpersonal closeness proceeds in a gradual and orderly fashion from
superficial to intimate levels of exchange as a function of both immediate and
future outcomes. Lasting intimacy requires continual mutual vulnerability
through breadth and depth of self-disclosure. Griffin, pg. 477
RELATIONAL
DISSOLUTION
Leslie Baxter (pg. 266)
- The way couples use communication to end relationships
- Direct strategies - involve the explicit statement of desire to end the
relationship, Indirect strategies do not
- Other strategies project concern for the other, or expediency (regardless
of the consequences to the other persons feelings)
- Endings can be unilateral or bilateral
- Indirect strategies of unilateral disengagement
- withdrawal (avoiding contact), pseudodeescalation (lets be friends), cost
escalation (being more annoying)
- Indirect strategies for bilateral disengagement
- fading away, mutual pseudodeescalation
- Direct unilateral disengagement - fait accompli
(simple statement that it is over), state-of-the-relationship talk (attempt to
analyze the relationship)
- Direct bilateral disengagement - attributional
conflict (a fight where each blames the other), negotiated farewell (mutual
parting without hostility)
- Strategies for disengagement appear to be learnt, you have more as you get
older
- Your personality is related to which strategy you will use, apprehensive
people tend to choose indirect strategies
- Trajectory - the course taken during the breakup, depends upon situation
and personal decisions
- Persevering indirectness trajectory - indirect methods of communicating
over several occassions
- Ambivalent indirectness trajectory - unilateral and indirect, but at
least one attempt was made to repair
- Swift explicit mutuality trajectory - termination was bilateral and
direct, no attempt was made to repair
- Mutual ambivalence trajectory - indirect, several repair attempts, long
time taken for breakup to finally occur
DIALECTICAL
THEORY OF FRIENDSHIPS
William Rawlins (pg. 268)
- The challenges of friendships arise chiefly from the need to manage a
variety of contradictions, or dialectics
- A dialectic is a tension between opposites in a system that demands
resolution
- Two general classes of dialectics operate in friendships
- Contextual Dialectics - meaning of friendship
within the broader culture
- contradictions between public and private
- governed by social and cultural expectations, creates tension, eg,
cross-sex friendships
- ideal versus real - expectations versus what exists, friends are meant
to be loyal, but at what cost?
- Interactional Dialectics - ambiguities of
everyday communication in any friendship
- freedom to be independent and the freedom to be dependent - let people
lead their own lives yet act as advisers
- affection and instrumentality - tension between valuing a friend as an
end in itself versus using the friend as a means to some other end
- judgement and acceptance - accept us as we are, but called upon to make
judgements and give advice
- expressiveness and protectiveness - open expression of feelings versus
not wanting to hurt feelings
THEORY OF
MARRIAGE TYPES
Mary Anne Fitzpatrick (pg. 271)
- Uses a questionnaire - the relational dimensions instrument, asks
individuals about various aspects of their marriage
- Marriages can be categorized by
- how partners use their space, time and energy
- the extent to which they express their feelings
- exertion of power
- sharing of a common philosophy of marriage
- Questionnaire measures three factors
- Ideology - variable involving conventional vs
nonconvential ideas of family
- Interdependence - variable reflecting
dependence versus autonomy in a marriage
- Conflict - amount of disagreement or clash in
a marriage
- Married couples cluster into three distinct groups
- Traditionals - conventionial views of
marriage, place value on stability and certainty, strong independence and
share much companionship
- Independents - do not rely upon each other
much. They value their own autonomy and often have separate rooms. Often
have friends outside the family, often vie for power, and are not shy
refuting each others arguments
- Separates - ambivalent about their roles and
relationship. Conflicts do not last long. Watchful attitude. Ask questions.
Seldom seek advice. Not very expressive.
- Often partners do not have the same schema, they are mixed in type
- The schemas are used to guide your actions in relating and interacting
with your spouse and serve to understand your entire family system
ATTRIBUTION
THEORY OF CONFLICT
Alan Sillars (pg. 275)
- How you deal with a conflict depends upon how you place blame
- Three general strategies of conflict resolution are seen in interpersonal
relationships
- Avoidance Behaviors - employ no or indirect
communication
- denial and equivocation, direct or implicit denial
- topic management, changing the subject, final words
- noncommittal remarks, abstract remarks, unfocused questions, rephrasing
the question
- irreverent remarks, joking
- Competitive Behaviors - involve negative
communication
- confrontative remarks, personal criticism, rejection, hostile
questioning, sarcasm, denial of responsibility
- Cooperative Behaviors - involve open and
positive communication
- analytical remarks, describing the problem, disclosing and soliciting
disclosure, soliciting criticism
- concillatory remarks, empathy or support, concessions, accepting
responsibility
- Three ways in which attributions are important determinants of the
definition and outcome of conflicts
- selection of strategy to deal with the conflict - cooperative strategy
selected if you attribute cooperation to the other, if you thought you were
to blame you might select a cooperative strategy
- biases in the attribution process discourage the use of integrative
strategies - tendency to hold others accountable for negative events but not
yourself
- strategy chosen affects the outcome of the conflict - cooperative
strategies encourage integrative solutions and information exchange, but
competitive strategies escalate and may lead to less outcome satisfaction
Griffin. (1994). A first look at communication theory. (2nd Ed.).
McGraw Hill.